To a child with a mother diagnosed with breast cancer, it boils down to one question: Is my mother going to be okay?
Children need reassurance, information on an age appropriate level, lots of love, consistency, and a sense of calm and normalcy. The conjuring of young imaginations can be far worse than the reality of the disease or treatment. Every child deserves a truthful, even if abridged, explanation of the diagnosis and anticipated treatment. A mother’s hair loss can be devastating to a child. Witnessing a mother’s physical incapacity, pain and sickness undermines the child’s perception that mothers are powerful and in control. Children can begin to question, “Will my family’s life ever be the same?” They need a safe forum to ask questions, voice their fears, and be reassured and calmed. They are, after all, the incentive to get up everyday and fight the fight.