Why Me? / Acceptance
There is still no explanation. That may be the thing that haunts me the most. I don't know why I got breast cancer.

Once diagnosed with breast cancer, many women are left wondering “Why me?” There are many phases that women go through to process their new reality; disbelief, fear, sadness, and anger are just a few. It’s hard to accept. Life is unpredictable and the only certainty in life is the uncertainty of what tomorrow brings. A cancer diagnosis presents an unexpected challenge. The status quo of everyday life is interrupted and it becomes necessary to navigate a new journey, an unexpected path.

Accepting it. Why me? Why did this happen to me? Did I do this to myself? Did I not take care of myself? Did this happen because I’m too stressed? What were the things I did to bring this on? Was this a warning sign? It's hard. It's really hard. -- RoseAnn A.

Once the initial diagnosis settles in, many women feel betrayed by their bodies and are left wondering if there was anything they did to cause their cancer. Was there something they could have done to prevent it? It’s never easy to accept bad news, but the first step in healing is acceptance. Once you begin to realize what you can control and what is beyond your control, you can begin to view a challenging diagnosis from a different perspective. Instead of focusing on what you could or could not have done differently in the past, you can take ownership of what you can do today and tomorrow to empower yourself and successfully navigate your diagnosis and treatment.

"They found three positive lymph nodes, so they wanted to do radiation. I felt very angry."
"Why do people get cancer anyway?"
"There are days when you just want to cry."
"With the stage I was at, even the doctors showed concern."
"It's been a very difficult experience for me. I'm getting a lot better at accepting it."
"I blamed myself a lot. I kept on questioning why did I get this. What have I done wrong?"
"The unknowns of cancer are so scary."
"It's a matter of accepting it."